choosing happy

You are the only person responsible for figuring out your own journey. No one can make you happy although their presence in your life can add to your happiness. No one can make you sad but their presence and control can add more sadness to your life if you do not learn to detach their emotions from your own. It isn't easy to live this way without the tools to master the process of detachment and independence. Detaching from other people's problems and feelings is not an easy task for many people, especially if they don't understand love. Love isn't allowing other people to predict how you feel, what you should do and how you should behave. Love isn't all about feelings but about freedom to be yourself, support in tough times, companionship and growing together through the changes of life. Unconditional love isn't as easy to find as condtional love nor is it easy to understand. In a biblical sense, "nothing can separate us from the love of God" this is unconditional love. We often love with human love, this is the love of conditions, the love that increases if I do as you say I should. Spiritual love is unconditional love, the love that separates how I behave, how I look, from who I am. Why is it so confusing to understand that I am NOT my actions? YOU are not what you do, what you look like, where you have been but WHO you are. Everyone deserves love and happiness. Everyone is someone. Love without restrictions, expectations and judgment and then you shall find "happy".